Uncovering your Submission.
A young sub asked the Old Master, “ How do I find my submission? “ To which the Old Master replied, “ You stop looking for it. “
There is a common misconception that submission is something you find. As if it is something that exists outside of yourself. But the truth is that submission is a light that comes from within. Everyone has it but, some people’s submission tends to burn brighter than others. But why is that?
Well, truth of the matter is that true submission is developed and cultivated through hard work and introspection. The process is more of an uncovering or a rediscovering than a finding. And yes, for some people this process will be as easy as snatching the blankets off of a bed and for others it maybe a deep and difficult excavation of the self.
First lets examine, “ What is Submission ? “
Submission is a derivative of Surrender in that both are states of being and both are predicated on the cessation of resistance. But, what makes them different is that surrender is usually situational and ( or ) incremental. ( also referred to as submitting ) Where as surrender is a perpetual state of non resistence which is akin to the buddhist term enlightenment. And that once developed, a person in their submission no longer has the desire to resist, to fight, to struggle... they no longer look clamor for external methods of control.
A person in their submission understands that if real control is the ability to regulate and limit others, then self control is one’s ability to self regulate and place limits on one’s self. And that self regulation is the only control that one needs because all other forms of control that exists outside of the self are merely an illusion.
This means that a sub, that is in their submission, submits because it brings them pleasure to please others and because it’s in their nature to do so. But it’s not because a dominant has some kind of invisible hold over them. That is the illusion of submission which tends to distract those that wish to submit from realizing their true self.
Far to often a dominant becomes the crutch in which a submissive rests their psychosexual and intimate worlds on. They often say, “ I wouldn’t do this or that, if you didn’t make me do it “ when the truth is that they had secretly fantasized about doing those same things for as long as they could remember. Being in ones submission means not resisting your wants, needs and desires. It means not stifling who you are or suppressing who you want to be. Submission is a shedding of all the shame and anxiety that arises when one tries to ask for what they need to feel satiated.
Submission, when cultivated properly is power of non resistance.
How does one develop this power?
To be continued
