What are your thoughts on an s/type who says he/she is a masochist yet as soon as you touch them with a cane or whip they tap out?

I would say that the bottom doesn't know what a masochist is and is just using it to denote that she is a bottom or the top doesn't know how to bring about the bottoms masochistic nature. (The latter is usually true.)

Lets start with a simple truth that all Dominants should know and that's  "There is a distinct difference between someone with a hi pain tolerance and a masochist." Someone with a high pain tolerance can tolerate above average amounts of pain but usually these people don't sexualize that pain. Where as, a masochist converts the pain in a sexual way and there for is able to endure more pain then they would be able to tolerate in a non-sexual scenario. That being said, " Getting a masochist to endure pain is a lot like trying to get a squirter to squirt... if they are not sufficiently turned on, it ain't going to happen" We have to remember that masochists are not people with high tolerances. They are deeply sexual beings that blend sex, pain and intimacy into a beautiful erotic experience that they share with us. So, if your Masochist that isn't processing pain I would think about a couple things. 

1.) Trust: In my opinion a masochist is allot like a stuntman and if a stuntman doesn't have trust in the people that keep him or her safe then they are not going to put their body on the line. 

2.) Respect: Allot of Masochists sexuality deeply tied to fear and if they don't have a healthy respect for the Dominant or what the Dominant can do then a large portion of the thrill is gone as B.B. King would say. 

3.) Is he or she turned on: Just like any system, you have to make sure that your masochist is properly turned on before you use them. This is not an easy thing because every masochist is unique so there is no unified approach that is going to work for them all. Some times you have to just start playing with the buttons in order to see which ones work. (Kind of like when you get that new cable remote. Push the button and see what happens... lol) 

4.) Slow is the way to go: Like a volcano, the slower and longer they build up the larger the explosion at the end. A Dominant has to take them through the motions... You have to build them up before you tear them down.... 

5.) Faith: The hope that you will be able to help them if they need it. Sometimes things go wrong and every now and then a person needs to believe that you will be there in there time of need. If a masochist feels that you are irresponsible they wont allow themselves to let go and you will never get them to go as deep as you want them to go. 

I hope providing you with this information will help you to bring out the true of your masochist. But, It's also important that we take into account that masochists are people and not meat. The better we treat them the longer we can use them. Remember, no matter how much the masochist can take, there body will eventually break. So be sure to love and maintain them just as you would any other precious possession.

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That's just one Doms opinion... whats yours?